He who has overcome his fears will truly be free……. Aristotle
Fear is a very big deal. It generally leaves its “slaves” completely frozen or rather incapacitated.
Slave may feel like a rather harsh word but fear literally binds you and keeps you in shackles!
Have you considered what will be left of you if you remain crippled with fear all of your life? Have you thought of what it means to have your entire future bottled up because of fear?
Not to even talk of the traumas you have to face every day!
Why did she have to go through this horrible experience and be left incapacitated for most of her life? Doesn’t she have the right to feel as humanly privileged as her male counterparts?
My biggest fear has always been the fear of speaking out about my experiences. Just talking about it makes my heart beat. Life has taught me that the universe will continuously throw something hard at me but the choice is mine. It is either I face life and come out shining or I let life face me and leave me broken!
The thought of talking about the sexual abuse caused her to contemplate suicide. The fear of being stigmatised and rejected by the immediate family left her frozen. The fear of getting pregnant the 2nd time and being forced to have an abortion crippled her and stole away her sense of belonging. The fear of speaking out caused her to harm herself. She did not feel loved. She believed the world hated her. The experience was unbearable. She lived in fear most of her life. She told herself there was no more life for her. Getting pregnant the 2nd time due to the sexual abuse would have sent her into an early grave. This is the story of a beautiful 19 year old girl!.
Studies suggest that the chance of getting pregnant from one- time, unprotected intercourse is between 3.1% -5%, depending on a multitude of factors, including the time of the month intercourse occurs, whether contraceptives were used and the age of the female. The average number of rapes and sexual assaults against females of childbearing is approximately 250,000. This is a general estimate and the actual number may differ from country to country. This statistic presents information from number of different studies.
She didn’t need to go through this horrible experience for someone’s selfish desire. Her life was shattered and bottled down for years. Thank God for the counselling and support she received. Now she has bounced back a lot stronger and she decided to face life. She is actively empowering many women out there.
To the ladies out there…NEVER LET YOUR FEAR DECIDE YOUR BRIGHT AND BEAUTIFUL FUTURE. Let’s all rise up for the fight against sexual abuse